Anxiety and Going to School

Fall is an exciting time for children and their families, but along with this beautiful season, anxiety may creep in! Anxiety, a 7 letter word that means a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease. Whether your pre schooler or college age child has started school or has been in for a few weeks, you may notice anxiety in both of you.  As a parent, we may be feeling some angst when thinking about our “baby” starting or attending school.  It’s natural to worry about them! Help your child focus by managing your nervousness by:

  • Maintaining a positive attitude by being enthusiastic and upbeat!
  • Manage your own feelings privately and share them openly with other parents when the children aren’t around. This is great time to meet other parents – both moms and dads – for coffee after drop off.
  • Get organized the night before, so you will be less stressed in the morning.
  • Don’t be late! If your child walks in late, it’s another reason to get upset. When you end up running late, use the moment to make a plan for tomorrow. “I really hate being late and I’ve noticed it makes you anxious too.  Today when we come home, let’s make a list of all the things we need to do tonight.”
  • Create a calendar—This is a great visual to assist your child in understanding when he goes to school, goes to church, goes to a party or even to McDonalds!
  • Pack a “piece of home” in your child’s backpack for times when he feels uneasy or homesick.
  • Create a “good-bye” ritual that is short and sweet. Don’t wait for your child to cry before you leave! Being proactive can help your child learn about feelings and how ritual is important to set ourselves up for activities.
  • Get excited at pick up and talk with your child about school. Your positive reaction is the most important piece!
  • BE CONSISTENT! Make a plan for the night before and follow the plan every night. Know you are going to be busy at 7:30pm when you always pack lunch?  Then do it earlier.  Or get two days worth together.